I consider myself to be a pretty open person, but sometimes I just have to shake my head and accept the fact that I can be as stupid as anyone. I am not perfect, may be not even close to it. There are times when I get angry, lose temper, raise my voice and throw tantrums. The adrenaline rush, brings the devil out of me, and make me do the most stupid things. Then I would want to hide myself behind my mom's saree, or bury myself in a pillow or yell at the top of my voice. At the end of it, I will be the one left with eyes stinging with tears. I want to run away from the myriad of arguments and the schedule of layovers in this journey of life.
I always wanted life to be like a flash of camera, with a flash of camera everything should be over and what is left should be a perfect picture - LIFE full of Happy Moments. But I understood, life doesn't work that way and even I've had my fair share of bad apples. Still occassionally I get lucky. Here are the diamonds in the rough my Dad, my mom and my husband. Somehow life and the people around me, always threw profound lessons at me. My Dad stood tall in the face of adversity, and showed me how endurance and patience can be the building blocks of an everlasting bond. My mom was there on the sidelines always to inspire me through her live examples how sacrifice and support can nurture a relationship. And three years back my beloved husband bloomed in the garden of my life. He taught me the biggest lesson that there is no 'I' in ''WE' and there is only 'V' in 'LOVE'.
In the whole world, I could be anything and anybody, a care free girl, a joker, a dreamer, a story teller, a snob, a studious book worm behind glasses and much more. But with him, I was me, just me and myself. I was a free spirit liberated from the pretensions and precautions of this world. With him I could share anything, my love, my loss, my fear, my insecurities, my heart aches and everything. He was that special someone. When I was with him parts of me would flow without fear of being judged. I could stand up and declare that 'I'm not perfect', still I would not be left alone.
Now I know whenever I fall, he would be there on my side to pick me up, dust me off, hold me tight and tell everything would be alright. Like my dad, he too wished me to be frugal and taught me how to save, but not to deny myself of the little pleasures and surprises of life. My Mom used to bring even a single piece of chocolate for me without having it, I always kissed her in gratitude for the chocolate and not the deed. But now when he does the same thing, I started realising that the deed of 'sharing' is worthy of accolades than the object itself. I understood that even having a piece of chocolate together is a sign that you think of your partner. I have to admit and confess that sometimes I succumb to the temptation of yummy chocolate and eat it on my own [He calls me Little Glutton :-)]. My sincere thanks to my ma and my hubby dear for giving me lessons on the joy of sharing, whether it be materialistic or spiritual in nature.
Until I met him I never really understood the qoute of William Shakespeare that 'Love comforts like sunshine after rain'. Even after a bitter argument, he would be there on my side smiling at me and comforting me by many of his humorous bits. The aching heart and eyes brimming with tears which seemed to exacerbate one another found solace only in his arms. Everything seems to be serenely romantic, ironically in the embrace of the guy with whom I was having a heated conversation just a few minutes back. Now I am pretty sure that William Shakespeare might have also experienced something of this sort. May be love can make me a poet too some day, who knows??!!!
Life is always presenting a treatise on the mysteries of love and relationship infront of me through my parents , my husband, and innumerable people that I came across in this journey. Ma and Papa taught me how mutual respect and selfless care for one another can foster a marriage. As a teenager, I used to make fun of marriage as a relationship that merely sticks on the thread of 'mangalsutra' or 'thaali charadu', but now I know the real thread of relationship is in the bonding of the hearts. Marriage and Relationship is a commitment to keep your partner before yourself. Even though it was me who taught him to enjoy the ice lollies with passion, it was him who taught me to live my life to the fullest, both in black and white. He taught me how to forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love selflessly and smile readily. I am still learning my lessons to be a good daughter, a good wife and preparing myself for the next level of big responsibilty. I cherish all those special moments we had and I have locked them in my heart as our sweet memories.
The word 'RELATIONSHIP' is a huge one, with it comes the inevitable tag 'RESPONSIBILITY'. Over these years I have learnt one thing, to grow the sapling of any relationship love is the one and only 'ELIXIR'. And in Love there is no 'I' but only a very big 'V'. It depends on each one of us to realize the importance of this 'V' and get away from the egoistic 'I' to build our eternal 'LOVE' Stories. In a relationship you must be ready to 'SACRIFICE' anything and everything just to see a 'SMILE' on your loved ones face and this 'SUPPORT' you render to your partner is the true symbol of 'SELFLESS' Love. If all these 4 S's are there in your life, then you can be confident of your relationship and there is no reason for anyone to be 'SCARED' of losing the charm of your love life. Are you all ready for it???? That is the only question left. If every one gets their lessons like me, then I am pretty sure that the urban divorces that sped up to fever pitch could dwindle away. For any relationship to work, only thing that you need to have is a really big heart to care, to cherish, to forgive, to love and to treasure all those scattered little droplets called 'MOMENTS' from the ocean of 'LIFE'. If you can pick the diamonds from the rough, then your special 'MOMENTS' would turn out to sweet 'MEMORIES'. And you can seal your memories in your heart for years to come. I kindly request every one who reads this to open your eyes, not to waste time and tell your loved ones how much they mean to you. Wish all of you a life full of 'SWEET MEMORIES'........
